Being in the NOW

My friend has a bad habit of bailing out on his friends, and particularly girlfriends. Obviously, it is hard for him to keep a relationship going, right? So, he'd like to change it.

So, what does he do? Carefully monitors himself to catch when his "bailer" comes out, and then tries to squish it.

Will it work?

No. When we try to "squish" something it never gets squished, it just keeps on growing. We feed the monster.

The way to go is to just OBSERVE it. Without any attempt to change it. Just watch it. Carefully, atentively, neutrally. Just be cool and watch it.

That will diminish it.